I came across this litte gem a few days ago on Facebook, and a thought came to my mind…
Who on earth wants to be an adult?
Maybe I was a weird kid, but the last thing on my mind was wanting to become an adult. Work, bills, a mortgage, rent, car payments that seem to never end (like a mortgage), health insurance, and a plethora of other things adults have to handle were NOT my aspiration. Oh, and kids and raising a family…definitely were not on my to do list when I was 15. Truth is, I didn’t know what I wanted at all at that time.
When I turned 18 and graduation loomed on the horizon, I knew I wanted to go to college, and I thought I knew what I wanted to do. As it happens, I was wrong, as are a lot of teenagers. I know a lot of folks that did know what they wanted to do, and have done it. I even know some that began doing what they wanted to do, saw that it wasn’t up to the snuff they thought, and then found other things to do.
The fact of the matter is that too many are in too damn big a hurry, and… AND, this little piece of wisdom illustrates, there are things that people are supposed to do as they come of age.
We are supposed to become adults.
We are supposed to raise a family.
We are supposed to have a career.
All of those came before living life without failing at it.
There is my thought in a nutshell. Life is not about the things we are supposed to do. There is more to living than that. Living is doing what you enjoy and figuring that out for yourself. I’m learning that slowly.
I am big on routine, so big on it that my most regimented routines are more like rituals. If one piece of the routine goes wrong, then chances are my whole day is screwed.
I like plans. I love it when a plan falls perfectly into place and runs itself flawlessly. If one part of the plan comes undone, then panic mode immediately sets in, impatience ensues, and the world as I know it comes to a grim and bitter end.
Some may think I’m being a bit melodramatic. Just ask my wife if that is an overstatement. I’m working on it though, It helps that my wife is the most spontaneous and erratic individual that has ever graced the earth.
It comes and goes, more going than coming at this point, but my patience with life will grow. My patience with living life will overcome. I will survive.
The rituals and knowing what we are supposed to do may make life easier and more manageable, but it does not necessarily make it better. One never, ever knows what is coming around the corner.
So, I would boil down this little proverb into two words.
That is all we really have to do.
I love this. What is everyone in such a hurry for, anyway? I went to college late. I graduate late. I didn’t work a “real job” in my field after graduating college. I am one of the oldest people in my graduate program. And I am fine with all of it. Because it has also meant that I am one of the people who give the most damns where I am and about the quality of work I am putting out.
And all the rest of that stuff like kids and a mortgage and scary adult things? I really want nothing to do with them for a while.
I figure it’ll happen when it’s suppose to happen. In the mean time, I just am enjoying things.
Thanks, Gretchen 🙂 I am excited for the future although the uncertainty can be a bit unnerving at times. I deal with it, though….usually by writing and breathing and telling myself that it’ll be okay. Maybe…eventually, I will prefer the unknown to the known.
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